Come across some Confucius quotes today:
1. They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom.
2. The grass must bend when the wind blows across it.
What it really means to me is that we need to change and bend with situation.
No matter how hard we try to be "ourselves", we can never beat the situation and even we did won... we can be so beat out by the long war.
Remember I said about expectation? I wish I could have set no expectation so that I can be happy; but without expectation, there will be no room for improvement. What is the choice?
But sometime, it may be the situation that gives false hope, which eventually leads to expectation.
Example:
Out of the blue, a parent told the kid "Hey, how about I buy you a toy".
Initially, the kid wasn't expecting any gift but once the parent has promises, it will lead to hope and expectation on what the toy can build up.
Naturally, the kid will reply "GREAT, can I have this toy instead" and probably go on and on to describe the toy.
The day when gift was presented, the kid is upset because the toy is not what he/she want.
Tell me whether it is the greed of the kid that led to disappoint, OR is the parent that lead to the kid's high expectation?
As a child, I have learn that whatever I want; I will have to work hard to get it OR I rather not having it.
This principle has stayed with me and will stay in me - I rather not have things that I am not happy with.
The society has build a certain aspect and expectation on how certain things need to be done; and it is what we can a "norm". Can you live and keep up with the norms in this real world? I am still trying hard...