Reinventing yourself

While I have some time during the hospitalisation leave, I borrowed a couple of books.

One was "Reinventing yourself" by Mario Alonso Puig. 

Initially, I was sceptical about reading these books as some say - it's your life, so it should be under your control. But what if you have lost control? 

Not indicating that we must digest every single words in the book; but sometimes, we can read and do interpretation according to your life and needs. 

Everyone loves and wants the good thing in life (who doesn't?) and wishing bad thing will never fall on them. 

This is impossible but what we can do is treasure the good and probably do damage control when the bad comes. 

A couple of quotes that I took off the book:

1. If you wish to reinvent yourself, focus on what you wish for and NOT on what you fear. 

How often have I avoid things that I fear and yet complaining I am not doing New stuffs? Mmm.. 

2. When you see a person, do not just take note of the human being that stands before you. Fix your attentions on the state of mind that person has at that moment. It will be very difficult for you to connect with that person if you both have not got into a suitable state of mind. 

This is so true - if both are not in a suitable mindset, the discussion will go nowhere. 

3. Very often the most relevant thing is not to impart knowledge or give explanations but formulate question which allow us to explore things which we had never even considered before. 

Now, I am definitely going to try this method when I get to work. 

Numerous of times, I failed to impart certain knowledge/send the message across to another co-worker. 

It has become like a situation where "he never listens to me". Let see if asking questions will helps. 

4. The body is the subconscious, and for this reason, when you look after your body, you are taking care of your mind; and when you take care of your mind, you also take care of your body. 
Now, how to take care these?

Ooops.. this is a pretty lengthy post. Racer also cannot tahan and zzzz liao. (this is an old photo)

NLB

It has been raining the whole day… but I wasn’t lazing in bed for 2 good reasons:
1. The construction outside my room was so loud. However, I left home at ~10am but when I got back at 5pm.. the noise is still there! Aiyah.
2. I wanted to get some reading material from the library.

Ok, lets talked about library first… but wait, nothing for me to complain about. It was clean and quiet…except that I still couldn’t get what I need. Also, the system is still the same as >8yrs ago – borrow books using NRIC. Yes, my last visit to the library is >8yrs ago.

Anyway, I just finished a book – Still Summer. It’s a book about family ties, sailing, friendship, pirates, etc. What captures my attention was the part where it describes the selfishness of human - triggers few thoughts:
1. How far will you go for the sake of friendship?
2. How well can you keep a secret?
3. What will you do if you were to be trap in a fight between 2 good friends?
4. Imagine you are desert in the open sea; which will you give up to save your friend - Your life? Your share of food/water? Your dignity? Your virginity when you met with a group pirates who steal and rape? Your money/jewelry?
5. Will you travel miles just to search for your missing friend?
6. Will you cry when she/he got hurt?
7. Will you continue to love her/him even when she/he has hurt you accidentally
8. ……..long list

Bottom line: Family tie is strong and as what they describe: “blood is thicker than water”; but there are some friendship that you will want to treasure for life… and some are even stronger than family. Treasure every single bit you have….